Eugene du Toit Mediation

My decision to pursue family law mediation is a direct continuation of more than three decades spent working with children and families in the field of special education. Throughout my professional life, I have been closely involved with families at moments of stress, uncertainty, and conflict — often when parents were required to make difficult decisions under emotional strain, with significant consequences for their children.

In my work with children with special educational needs, I saw repeatedly how parental conflict, communication breakdown, and unresolved disputes can negatively affect a child’s sense of safety, stability, and development. I also witnessed the transformative impact that respectful dialogue, careful listening, and structured support can have when families are given the space to engage constructively. These experiences shaped my strong child-centred philosophy and ultimately led me toward family mediation as a formal professional pathway.

Family mediation appeals to me because it prioritises process over position, collaboration over confrontation, and the long-term wellbeing of children over short-term victories. My background has equipped me with a high tolerance for emotional intensity, an ability to remain calm and neutral in difficult conversations, and a deep respect for the lived realities of families navigating separation or restructuring. I am particularly attentive to power imbalances, communication styles, and the ways in which children’s needs can become lost in adversarial dynamics.

I completed my Family Law Mediation training cum laude through the NABFAM-accredited Mediation Academy and am an accredited member of the South African Association of Mediators (SAAM).

Central to my approach is a commitment to confidentiality, neutrality, and professional integrity. I aim to create a safe, respectful, and structured environment in which both parties feel heard and supported, without judgement or alignment. My goal is not to direct outcomes, but to assist parties in reaching balanced, workable agreements that are realistic, sustainable, and aligned with the best interests of their children.

If you would like to explore mediation as an option, click on the link at the bottom of this page, or get in touch via WhatsApp or email. I look forward to hearing from you.